All these books and the quotes and the teachers and the legends and life coaches giving us the “secret” of happiness.
I don’t think it is a secret anymore, because everybody knows about it, everybody has experienced happiness whether it was for a long time or just one second and everybody is talking about it. But the thing that surprises me is that it’s not even something that is common sense for humans anymore. People put it as a priority, as a goal. But should HAPPINESS really be a goal on your list? Something to achieve in the future? I don’t think so, that is so weird. How can you achieve happiness if you don’t even know what it is. Because if you did you would have felt it right?
They say happiness is in the most simple things in life, it can be achieved when you are grateful for the things in your life. But if it was so simple everybody would get it, everybody would recognize how happy they actually are. However, that is not the case.
And then I kept asking myself, am I happy? What is it, happiness? Where is it hiding? So after thinking and over-thinking and reading and puzzling quote after quote I found my answer: F*** IT!
Yes that is my answer :), because if you stop giving yourself a headache about what is going to happen in the future and keep worrying about things that has happened how will you ever find happiness. It is in the very moment that happiness is ready for you. In this moment right now, where there is no desire for the future. Where all that has happened and all that is coming are only an illusion. You have got to let go.
Now, I’m not saying to stop thinking about the future and stop dreaming and setting goals for yourself. But once you have done that, let the universe take over. Work for your dreams one day at a time, if you have to take a different way to achieve what you want just let it be. F*** it, and go with the flow.
There it is, not a secret at all. It is very simple, yet difficult to do.
Do you remember the blog I posted a few months ago about goals and how to have a great 2015 (click here)?
Well this post is about evaluating what you have done and how you can still make 2015 a great year!
Look back at your goals list and see which once you have already accomplished or still working on. Some made an actions plan which means the things they are going to do to help them reach their goals. A few evaluation questions that you have to ask yourself when taking ANY further steps.
- Are these still my goals and actions I want to take and reach?
- How far have I came?
- What have I learned from (the wrong approach, decisions, strategies) it?
- How can I improve my second half year of 2015?
- Is it SMART?
- Do I have to adjust my plans?
- Can I add more goals/action plans?
Essential questions! If you have some of your own or related to your goals please add them and write everything down in your journal if you have kept one. You can also just write it on a piece of paper. But it is important to have it written down somewhere (HAND WRITTEN PLEASE) and carry it with you.
Look every once in a while and use it as a compass to your goals.
And never forget to thank yourself for the past few months and the progress (even if it is VERY SMALL). You are doing great!
Life routine of 95% of the people:
- Go to college
- Get a job
- Get married
- Get a mortgage that you will be stuck with for the rest of your freaking life
- Have kids
Of course in between there are birthday parties (where some of them, you are forced to go to), have a holiday once in a while (not to far of course because that is too expensive), and keep complaining about how shit life can be.
Narrow minded people, they think they are smart, they think they know the answer, they THINK they are living the answer. What a waste of your brains and energy. Saying that only a few people were made to succeed. What made them so successful? Who choose these people to succeed? What the hell are you talking about?
WHY NOT YOU!?