Useless advice

We are all walking around giving people advice that need it and tell everyone what to do and how to solve their problems.

What you preach, you have to practise yourself. What is the use of giving advice when you don’t even follow your own? Many say you have to be patience in life and what not, yet when they are waiting in line at the supermarket they count the seconds.

People tell others to be nice and accepting of everyone and not to discriminate, yet when someone is different then them, they will be first one to point out the differences.

Everyone posts on their social media to follow dreams, to go after what they want, to be positive, that happiness comes from within, yet all they do is complaining about their daily jobs and how bad they hate it. How they are unhappy and they are not living the life they wish to live.

If you are a walking spiritual – religious – positive – happy guru, why don’t you take your own advice? Why is it that we have solutions for everyone but ourselves?

We are too scared to look within, and our minds want to occupy the empty space that we have to solve our own problems with someone’s problems. We love to solve other people’s problems, we want to hear more complaining, more rumors, more problems because at least we are turning the focus on someone else.

You can always help others, but don’t forget your own life. We can not forget ourselves, our beautiful souls need healing too. We need someone that can listen to us too. Not hearing our complains, but hearing our pain and help us heal it.

When the time has passed, it will be too late to start thinking about what we could have done, should have done, should have healed, could have tried.

Why is it that on our deathbeds we start thinking about our life, why don’t we think about it now that we are alive!

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How affirmations REALLY work

Many people have heard of affirmations and many more try to use affirmations in their daily lives to make things happen. However, it doesn’t always work for anyone.

In this video I have explained why affirmations don’t work and how you can turn that around. And in this blog I will explain more about how affirmations REALLY work for anything you want in your life.

What are affirmations:

Affirmations are sentences aimed to affect the conscious and the subconscious mind. The words composing the affirmation, automatically and involuntarily, bring up related mental images into the mind, which could inspire, energize and motivate. Repeating affirmations, and the resultant mental images, affect the subconscious mind, which in turn, influences the behavior, habits, actions and reactions.*

*Source: https://www.successconsciousness.com/affirmations.htm 

Now that you know what affirmations are we can start getting into the real talk! Reading the meaning affirmations sounds easy right? I know! However, it doesn’t work as easily as it sounds because there is something else that I believe is missing in the statement which is FEELINGS.

Well how DOES it work then and when can I get started?

First things first.

Step 1: Write down on a piece of paper what you truly want to manifest into your life. It can be a job, a partner, a nice holiday, a fitness goal, whatever you like!

Step 2: Think of all the positive things that you can say to yourself around this goal. For example I want to run a half marathon is the goal, then the affirmations that are matching with this goal would be

  • I am a healthy and energetic person
  • I can run a half marathon with full power and energy
  • I understand what it FEELS like to run a half marathon
  • I LOVE running a half marathon
  • I KNOW I can run a half marathon
  • My body understands when it FEELS like to run a half marathon
  • My body FEELS great
  • My health is improving each and everyday
  • I know how to train for a half marathon
  • I am ready to run a half marathon

These are some examples that you can use to match the picture you have in mind when you are working or reaching your goal.

Step 3: MEDITATE. I know not everyone “knows” how to do it, and I rather call it VISUALIZE than meditation because it is something different, but because many people understand the term meditation better I will use that now for now. When you sit and meditate for 10 to 15 minutes a day about your goal, you will start developing feelings of HOW IT FEELS LIKE to actually run a half marathon. You can FEEL that you are reaching the finish line, you can feel your body is healthy and strong, you can FEEL that you are runner. This is recommended every day before going to bed or before getting out of bed in the morning.

Step 4: Let go! what?? Let go??? YES! Let go of any attachment towards what you want. This will create space between you and your goal to develop en and for the process to happen. I know it is hard to let go of something you truly want. But trust me it is easier to go on with the right actions towards your goal and doing the things you want to do in your daily life, yet not thinking 24/7 about your goal. Give it space to develop and to come alive!

Step 5: Congratulations, you have reached your goal

Just a quick side note, if you really don’t understand why you are not getting what you want and you have been doing all the right things but it is just not coming to you, then I would say, it might be time to check you believe system (this subject will be on my blog soon), or it might not be for you and there is something greater out there!

NAMASTE!

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